Loving yourself is essential. When we lack self-love, we are not aware of our own self-worth. It affects our self-esteem and the way we not only treat ourselves, but the way we allow others to treat us. For instance, we tend to put up with a whole lot more of other people’s boloney than we normally would.
Furthermore, self-love and self-esteem are correlated. A person with a low self-esteem will have an effect on the amount of self-love the individual has for him or herself and vice versa. If you do not love and accept yourself, (every part of yourself unconditionally), it will affect the way you view yourself and your own self-worth.
Indeed, many individuals experience negative false thoughts and beliefs about themselves. For example, you could continually think or say to yourself, “I’m not good enough, I’ll never lose weight, I’ll never find the man/woman of my dreams,” etc. The words you say to yourself matter and the way you view yourself is especially important in order to increase your sense of worthiness and self-love.
The relationship you have with yourself is the most crucial one and has an effect on every relationship throughout your life. We teach other people how to treat us. If we do not love and respect ourselves enough by believing and saying good things about ourselves, how can we expect others to do the same. We are sending out the message to everyone else in our lives that it is okay to treat us poorly.
In addition, having a low self-esteem will also influence how well you take care of yourself. If we are completely honest with ourselves, the majority of us would most likely say our self-care is not up to par or as good as it should be. So, with that in mind, let us take a moment or two for an honest self-reflection on your own self-care.
Ask yourself the following questions and answer them honestly. Do you tend to put other people’s needs before your own? Perhaps you make everything and everyone else in your life a priority except yourself, and often forget that you matter too.
Do you ever have a hard time accepting compliments from others?
You might have felt uncomfortable or just shrugged off the compliment like it was not true or you really did not believe what the other person was saying. Thus, for the reason that you did not believe you deserved or were worthy of the compliment
Do you surround yourself with people & things that encourage, inspire, and uplift you?
Do you stay involved in unhealthy relationships or relationships that no longer serve you because of some kind of fear, guilt, or obligation?
The consequences of not loving yourself are critical. Some people may end up finding themselves involved in toxic or abusive relationships. Abusive relationships can include emotional, mental, and/or physical abuse. Although all relationships may not necessarily be abusive, however they can be extremely unhealthy and toxic.
If you can relate to any of the situations or examples I have mentioned above, please know that you are not alone. Millions of people suffer from low self-esteem and lack self-love. Regardless of the origin or reasons for your lack of self-love or low self-worth, it is time to start caring for yourself and treating yourself with the respect, kindness, and love you so deserve. You deserve happiness and for good things to happen in your life. So, start investing in yourself today because you are worth it!
Sending you all much love, peace, & positive vibes,
Sherri Pentzien (Life Coach & Owner of Savannahsmiles Life Coaching)
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