Let’s begin with what self-love is not… it’s not narcissism, self-centeredness, or about being arrogant and conceited. Self-love isn’t selfishness and egotism. Loving ourselves certainly doesn’t mean we get to pursue our goals and act on our desires no matter who gets hurt along the way. We also know it is not about the material things we tend to accumulate throughout our lives. And of course self-love is not the same as the love we receive from our friends, family, and our pets. So what is self-love?
Self-love is when we are able to accept and approve of ourselves unconditionally. When we love ourselves we have the compassion and an understanding of our own individual needs, and we strive to meet those needs. We pay special attention to our thoughts and emotions, especially the thoughts we have about ourselves. We give ourselves permission to think and feel whatever emotions we are experiencing. We practice self-nurturing healthy habits. We make good decisions and better choices. We put our own needs first, before anyone else’s. Moreover, we believe that we deserve happiness, and see ourselves as a worthy and good person, feeling like we have a purpose and a sense of belonging in the world.
If you would like to learn more about Self-Love or think you may be struggling with Self-Love (as most of us do), than you’ll want to check out my Self Love Indicator Assessment & 111 Ways To Love Yourself Book Manuscript (PDF’s).
Sending you much Love, Peace, & Positive Vibes,
Sherri Pentzien (Certified Life Coach & Owner of Savannahsmiles Life Coaching)